This is interesting to me as someone who’s overworked herself and has seen how much that has slowed down her progress. I like the idea of working towards our dreams, finding a way that works for us that doesn’t make us burnout or lose perspective on what’s important in life too. I think for me being softer with myself has made me improve so much, work for me just flows now. It’s interesting because I’m sure a lot of people need to hear this now. Some people need to hear “slow down” and others need to hear “maybe you have to push a little harder” and I do understand that even though the pushing harder is our main narrative in society nowadays, I suppose places like substack will be a little bit more leaning onto the “slow down” kind of advice, apart from the fact that this can also be romanticized
Thanks so much for reading! I agree that the Substack community seems to lean towards the "slow life" approach which is definitely not a bad thing (especially for creatives who are just starting. But I also think there needs to balance between slowing down and stopping completely. I've been in a cycle of overworking myself, and I try to give myself grace so I don't burn myself out, but I think I got very close to giving myself too many excuses which kept me from working my passion.
I get you completely. This was interesting for me to read too because it triggered me to think that maybe I’m not working hard enough. The idea that I burnt out once and then when I was softer and kinder to myself I was able to thrive again, sometimes does keep me from working a bit harder. Maybe now I’m at a place where I can make that happen, always careful that I’m not going to far and I can always have my slow down moments💗
I know deep down I am self sabotaging on purpose because it’s not like I don’t know what I need to do/what my dreams are/why I am called to do this business. However, because I haven’t really been attached to a community or thing since being unemployed and I have lived in a couple different places during this time, i have less consistent connection with people and literally no one holding me accountable for anything except for myself. And I am realizing I am a weak accountability partner 😭 which I want to get better! And one of the reasons I wanted to start a business is because I knew it would challenge my self-discipline but man. I don’t really care about anything if I can’t be involved with people and since I haven’t had that consistently it’s hard for me to have motivation to do anything at all.
I am in the process of starting a business and am currently unemployed and have a lot of unstructured time and although the things I have done for my business are great, I have NOT been as productive as usual when I’m employed. I have a couple thoughts as to why but it’s been hard because my friends/family are like “you’re doing great! don’t be so hard on yourself” and I’m like “????? I’m struggling so bad with time management I’m literally doing 2 things a day instead of like a normal 10 or something” and its fine and I get that I have been too hard on myself in the past but also now I’m like, literally not doing anything at all so……..
Thanks so much for writing!! So grateful to feel seen in this!
This is interesting to me as someone who’s overworked herself and has seen how much that has slowed down her progress. I like the idea of working towards our dreams, finding a way that works for us that doesn’t make us burnout or lose perspective on what’s important in life too. I think for me being softer with myself has made me improve so much, work for me just flows now. It’s interesting because I’m sure a lot of people need to hear this now. Some people need to hear “slow down” and others need to hear “maybe you have to push a little harder” and I do understand that even though the pushing harder is our main narrative in society nowadays, I suppose places like substack will be a little bit more leaning onto the “slow down” kind of advice, apart from the fact that this can also be romanticized
Thanks so much for reading! I agree that the Substack community seems to lean towards the "slow life" approach which is definitely not a bad thing (especially for creatives who are just starting. But I also think there needs to balance between slowing down and stopping completely. I've been in a cycle of overworking myself, and I try to give myself grace so I don't burn myself out, but I think I got very close to giving myself too many excuses which kept me from working my passion.
I get you completely. This was interesting for me to read too because it triggered me to think that maybe I’m not working hard enough. The idea that I burnt out once and then when I was softer and kinder to myself I was able to thrive again, sometimes does keep me from working a bit harder. Maybe now I’m at a place where I can make that happen, always careful that I’m not going to far and I can always have my slow down moments💗
I know deep down I am self sabotaging on purpose because it’s not like I don’t know what I need to do/what my dreams are/why I am called to do this business. However, because I haven’t really been attached to a community or thing since being unemployed and I have lived in a couple different places during this time, i have less consistent connection with people and literally no one holding me accountable for anything except for myself. And I am realizing I am a weak accountability partner 😭 which I want to get better! And one of the reasons I wanted to start a business is because I knew it would challenge my self-discipline but man. I don’t really care about anything if I can’t be involved with people and since I haven’t had that consistently it’s hard for me to have motivation to do anything at all.
I am in the process of starting a business and am currently unemployed and have a lot of unstructured time and although the things I have done for my business are great, I have NOT been as productive as usual when I’m employed. I have a couple thoughts as to why but it’s been hard because my friends/family are like “you’re doing great! don’t be so hard on yourself” and I’m like “????? I’m struggling so bad with time management I’m literally doing 2 things a day instead of like a normal 10 or something” and its fine and I get that I have been too hard on myself in the past but also now I’m like, literally not doing anything at all so……..
I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT THIS SAME THING AND MY POST TOMORROW WILL BE ABOUT THIS